Helping Families Thrive In Life
Although God is our ultimate security and Protector – our Strong Tower, as the psalmist said: in Psalm 61:2-3, the parent also serves as tower of strength for their children. The parent is designed and called to protect, teach, and lead their children into their God-given purpose.
The question is: How do you do that? Sounds like a heart-wrenching responsibility. Well, it could, but it’s not.
Let me explain.
In ancient times a tower was an immensely fortified tower, being elevated high above the surrounding danger. It served as a place of protection, refuge and, well… safety.
Though we as parents are sometimes not aware of “all” and “every” danger our kids may be facing on a given day or season, yet our experiences, our training and our intuition as parents, equips us to be a tower of strength to them.
I wrote another article similar to this one, but I after I finished it, I realized that I could help homeschooling parents in this area as well. So this article in particular will have a homeschooling twist to it more relatable to homeschooling families.
One of my vivid memories while living in Puerto Rico at a young age was staying inside the house, away from windows and doors whenever a tropical storm came by. My grandparents were more used to this and knew exactly what to do.
Having been raised without a father (he died when I was 4), my grandparents were my heroes. Oh! my mom was my hero too, but there’s something about being at grandma and grandpa’s house, when only mom is your protector.
(Single mothers do have it hard – my hat’s off to them) They provided such protection that I feared nothing and no one.
We used to weather storms every so many months or years. They weren’t’ as common as some might think, but I do remember taking precaution as I was instructed.
In the mid-90s, which were my mid-20s and married, we had a tropical-like storm in Chicago.
Right away my instincts kicked in, and I got my wife and my daughter to safety. I took them away from windows choosing to hang out in the middle of the apartment where we lived. Not much safety but it was the best I had to work with.
I’m glad for the little that I knew as a young father. 10 minutes after we sat down to pray for protection and play with our 3 year old.
The power line that ran across the top of our driveway (which was adjacent to the dining room area where we were watching the storm) got hit by lightning, snapping it in half, causing sparks and loud pops (explosions like), scared us and quickly called 911.
It was no fun watching that cable – even after the storm passed - snapping, popping, and hissing as the sparks of fire continued. So much so, that it burned a section on a huge maple tree that was by it. That was a weird experience at 5 pm. for a 3 year old, as well as for a young parent.
Storms are not the only thing we protect our children from. We protect, teach and lead our children by being proactively involved in their daily lives.
We also prepare them for essential decisions, problems and pressures during their childhood and teenage years.
Consequently that protection often becomes part of their training for their adult years and their purpose for living.
In our protection, teaching and leading them in the way they should go, we as parents play a major part in their lives.
a. We disciple their hearts with God’s Word along with our knowledge.
b. We train them and prepare them for their future.
There are other ways we protect, teach and lead our kids.
Here are 6 ways stances we parents take as Posts of Guidance:
1. We explain to them the basic things in life - giving them a strong foundation for the rest of their life’s journey – the work in progress.
2. We offer advice on how to handle other children in the support groups, in public as well as their siblings. Teaching siblings how to get along – loving each other and putting their sibling ahead of themselves is probably a tougher chore than teaching a regular public school child how to handle bullies in school. It’s a tough job!
Because teaching a kid on how to handle a bully in school is a skill that only requires self-control and some training.
Teaching siblings to love each other is always a matter of the heart – a much deeper and sensitive and lasting process.
The hearts of our children need to be trained in order for them to treat their dearest friends and fellow man, who they often try to compete with, respectfully. If you’re a homeschooling parent, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
3. We help our children develop good friendships, and by stepping in when a wrong influence seems to be getting the upper hand.
Instructing your child to choose friends wisely saves them years of frustrations and heartaches. They will carry your instructions for year to come.
4. We give them boundaries – like placing a limit on the types of movies they watch, videos they play and Internet sites they view.
Not only is that - but a time frame for each of those areas is crucial for their development years – which will help them in their older years. Your protective skills in this area are incredibly important.
The media and their electronic activities along with their social media interactions will undoubtedly shape their minds, their worldview and their decision making for the rest of their lives.
Being a tower of protection for them in this area is of great importance.
5. We love them enough to talk about the difficult issues - like sex, setting rules for dating (like what age is appropriate to date, how and where to date), respecting authority, servitude and more.
If you don’t teach them in these areas to protect them from future failures and heartaches, then the media is readily available to give them their spin on it.
In our household, we don’t do dating. We learned a long time ago the danger of breaking another person’s heart during the dating process.
We have chosen to teach our children the value of life, the value of the Word of God, and the value of a heart. We’ve taught them how to distinguish the right person for their lives.
In addition to that, we have worked hard at obtaining their hearts so that we care for them properly. They know that we, as their parents, will be involved in the choosing of their spouse for life.
I know this is a tough topic with a variety of opinions, but the Bible provides enough principles for living to put this into practice. Not to mention, that marriages lasts much longer, even for life, when parents are involved in their children’s choosing of their spouses.
I’m not talking about matchmaking by the parents. I’m not talking about choosing their spouse without their desires.
What I’m saying, is that we, as their parents, are involved alongside of them, to lead them, instruct them, counsel them and protect them during their spouse search and choice.
We won’t choose for them, but we’ll guide them through it.
Maybe I’ll write about his topic more extensively in the future if the request for such topic is suggested.
6. We pray – constant prayers of protection over them. If you thought the first five areas or becoming a Post of Guidance was important and necessary – this one is of utmost importance.
Without prayer and acquiring protection from our Strong Tower – our Heavenly Headquarters, we’ll lose the purpose and the “how” for why we carry out the first five in the fist place.
The list could be almost endless. In other words, as a parent, you are your child’s Post of Guidance. It is the parent’s post to work from in terms of raising a strong family.
In today’s society parental skills have become more challenging and difficult to carry out. The influences that we constantly have to battle to protect our families from wear out the strongest minds.
One thing to keep in mind is – you’re not alone in this journey and you’re not without the provision of strength, skills, and protection.
Through prayer and constant communication with our Main Strong Tower, you are able to take your post of guidance and accomplish the greatest job and responsibility the Lord has bestowed upon your life.
Part of your God-given purpose as a parent is to take your post of guidance - your place as protector, teacher and leader.
What a responsibility! What a privilege! What a blessing!
Question: How else can you stand as a post of guidance for your children?
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