Determining to have an Olympic mentality for your marriage and your family
Are you fulfilling your dreams as an individual, a marriage or a family? Are you living the life you believe you were created for?
In other words, are you living according to your God-given design?
I’m not asking you if you have all the money you ever wanted. I’m not asking you if you’re successful. Success is a relevant concept.
Meanwhile, many others of such fortune wind up committing suicide and others wind up losing their marriages and their families. In my book, and in God’s way of doing things – that’s not success.
Success is better defined by becoming what you were designed for- fulfilling your assignment.
Every successful assignment, however, requires a vision, dreams, goals and aspirations.
Speaking of successful assignments within the realm of the Olympics 2016, let me remind you that every Olympic competitor has five things in common which is what got them to the Olympics in the first place.
* They had a vision for their accomplishment.
* They had dreams and goals to accomplish.
* They had ambition and aspiration to become different – and better.
* They worked hard and plowed through the hard times.
* They failed. The first time, the second time, and several times during their sporting careers while keeping the Olympics in mind.
They all failed, but they went at it again.
Let me put it to you this way – life is filled with failures. Failures are simply learning lessons that ought to encourage us to get up again and try once more.
But in order to do that, you must be determined, ambitious, and filled with aspiration to accomplish the goals for your dreams that will take you to a place you’ve never been before.
If you’re like most humans though, on the first fail, you give up.
Can I remind you – it’s not your fault that you failed. It’s not your fault that you’ve failed at your sports, class, that relationship, or maybe your current marriage and parental relationship.
It’s not all your fault – but it’s your responsibility to try again, and again.
See, most of us have been trained in our society that failure is a poor unfortunate person without the goods.
Truth us, failure is an event – not a person.
It’s an event that reveals your shortcomings, while propelling your ambition if you have determination and a willingness to succeed.
Maybe you had all sorts of dreams for your life. The dream to become a movie star; to be professional ball player; to own your own business, to be an influential father, or an extraordinary mommy.
Well, let me tell you this – you still can be a successfully extraordinarily father, mommy and married couple.
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In fact, without parents you wouldn’t have successful people. It just so happens that we all come into this earth by way of the great mystery of motherhood and fatherhood.
Most people, after failing a time or two, or by having little to no direction, give up and quit. They figure, “well, I’ll just get me a ‘regular job’ with a secure salary and settle down.
I’m going to live a normal life with normal friends, in a normal house, with a normal paycheck, retire at a normal age and be buried in a normal grave.”
Does that sound like a great dream? Does that sound like God’s design for his children?
Of course not! That’s the picture of a surviving society with no direction except that which the system provides for them.
I want to encourage you to have an Olympic mentality.
The type of mentality that says: “I’m going to try this again.” “I can do this.” “I’m going to do whatever it takes until I master this.”
As a married couple and as a family you can have the same attitude. With marriages failing at a rapid rate; families falling apart faster than it takes the next baby to be born, you must have a resilient attitude towards your goal.
See, let me give it to you this way: you will never be satisfied living the status quo because you were not created to be “normal”.
You were designed by God not to blend in, but to stand out. You were born to be distinct.
"You were designed by God not to blend in, but to stand out. You were born to be distinct." Click To Tweet
Whatever “normal” is in your world, you were designed for more. Not better than others, but distinct.
You were designed to make a difference in your marriage and with your marriage; in your family and with your family. You were destined to win!
Think of the thousands kinds of flowers in the world. They are all flowers, but each one is unique in its species, colors and fragrances.
Think of the forest at first glance, the trees all seem to blend together. When you get closer, however, you see that the shape of each tree is unique. Every type of tree has leaves with distinct design.
Why? Because uniqueness is part of the God’s creation.
Individual design is as true of humanity as it is of nature. God doesn’t want any one person to get lost in the midst of everyone else.
There are over six billion people on this planet. Not one of them has your fingerprints. That being the case - don’t mimic your life or your marriage or your family after another.
Sure, learn from others, but don’t imitate them. You imitate Christ. Learn to discover your uniqueness as a married couple and as a family.
Every Olympic medalist has learned to be different, unique and daring to step out and show the world that they are champions.
Your marriage and your family was established to rally and portray the champion within, one practice at a time, one pain at a time, one failure at a time, one instruction at a time.
In economics the values of something is determined by how rare it is. For example, real pears are costly because they are found only in a small number of mollusks, and they must be searched for.
When you buy a real diamond it’s expensive because no two diamonds in the world are alike.
Similarly, God wanted you to be perpetually valuable, so He made you permanently rare. He created you as one of a kind.
My wife and I have followed this same principle – to be different and allow and develop our “rareness” – our design as a couple, and then as a family to be all that God intended for us to be and do.
Still in this process we continue to go after the goal of our upward call – to be Christlike in our marriage and in our family.
We believe in working hard, through pain, through knee scrapes, through instructions, corrections, and hours of practice to develop and establish a God-given vision.
This is the reason why we do our yearly marriage/family vision – because it has worked tremendously as a vehicle to get us to our destiny.
You can download the free basic course here. It will open your eyes to a new dimension of God’s direction for your marriage and your family.
Just like a diamond, God wanted you to be perpetually valuable, so He made you permanently rare. He created you as one of a kind. Click To Tweet
So here are the 3 Important Lessons The Olympics Teach You About Your Life:
1. Dare to be different.
Don’t settle for less than what God has established for you. Sure it make take some work, prayer and motivation to accomplish God’s best for your life, but it’s well worth the sweat. Not to mention – you’ll be a couple and family doing the will of God for your life.
2. Have a vision.
Without vision, people go unrestrained. Every Olympian has works off of a vision for the gold medal. They know exactly what they’re competing for, and more importantly, why they’re competing.
It’s been said, that the poorest person in the world is a person without a dream.But the most frustrated person in the world is the one who has a dream but doesn’t know how to bring it to pass.
This is why I have created this free course to help you with your marriage and family vision.Download it – don’t worry, it’s easy to implement.All you need is a good email and you’ll be able to watch it on any electronic device.
3. Practice, practice, practice.
Yes, much like an Olympian a united strong marriage and family take much practice. You’ve got to keep going at it until you get good at it.
Don’t think for one minute that providing the daily bread and playing cards with your kids every once in a while, and watching a movie on the weekends, is going to give you a successful family. It takes more than that because you were design for more – and so have your kids.
4. Learn the secret to fail.
Again, failure is an event- not a person - not you. Just because you failed once does not make you a failure. You fail when you decide to give up and quit.
Life has its troubles – enough to discourage anyone out of anything – but God and His Word has all the encouragement you need to fuel the energy within you to go at it again – and succeed.
5. Fight to win.
Every Olympian fights their way through to win. They have to fight through the jitters, the butterflies, the lies and insecurities in their heads.
They need to fight against mental weakness. They have to fight against the crowd – the ones who mock them. They have to fight against the often muscle pain during their competition, or their headaches from the lack of sleep or food the night before.
In order to win you must fight! No need to fight people. Your greatest opponent (other than Satan) is YOU.
So fight the good fight of faith and lay hold of that which God has given you – to win in your marriage as a couple; to win in your family together as a team. Overcome the discouragement within and strife towards your goal – and go get your gold metal. You can do it! It’s yours to win it!
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