Tips To Becoming The Right Person in your Marriage
The pure intention of most married couples is to have a thriving marriage. I’m sure that nobody gets married expecting a “perfect marriage.”
Yet, that’s really what we all seem to want – isn’t it? And if it doesn’t materialize after a couple of years, then many call it quits.
Truth is that most marriages fail, not because there isn’t enough love and consideration in each other’s heart but it’s due to something even more simple than that.
One of the real reasons for failing marriages is simple – most couples don’t plan to succeed and thrive in their marriage. This is a habit that couples need to implement for success.
It’s almost as if many expect the marriage unit to simply fit right into their lives, and if you work hard and love each other, everything should be alright.
Real success in marriage is not necessarily found in love, but in its purpose – the reason for its existence.
Now let me explain. Surely, without love you have not marriage. So, let’s keep love where it belongs – right in our hearts.
The whole reason why we get married in the first place, why we continue in our marriage and why we stick out till “death do us part” is because we love each other and we’re committed to one another. At least it should be that way.
Yet marriages still fail.
Let me share with you 4 Key Elements to a Thriving Marriage.
1. Strategic Vision
It’s vitally important to have a vision for marriage before we enter that marriage covenant.
The vision will give you the desire, the passion and inspiration to set goals to build your marriage successfully.
For those who never thought about a vision for marriage, like most, it’s important to get one.In my book: Discovering Your God-Given Vision, I share the various steps to obtain a vision and how that vision is the catalyst that will catapult you into a thriving marriage.
But for now, the most foundational and sure way to get a vision for your marriage is to pray for one. Ask God to give you a vision to take your marriage to the next level.
That was one of my prayers before I got married, and even during our last 28 years of marriage.
I realize that without vision people go unrestrained. So I figured, I better set my sails in the right direction in order to get what I wanted out of my marriage.
The result has been exponential. This is why I have created a free course to help you get, develop and establish your own vision for your marriage and your family. You can get it here.
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2. Strategic Mission
A mission is just as important as vision. Your mission is basically the structure you give your vision
One of the best ways to develop a strategic mission for your marriage and perhaps even a mission statement is to pray and even brainstorm with your spouse.
Ask your pastor, your friends, relatives, parents, etc., what they see as your biggest strengths and weaknesses in your marriage. It's important to see how others see your marriage so that you have more than one perspective.
Think of your belief system, your convictions, your heart’s desires, etc. and write them down.
Take your time – don’t rush this part. This is basically the whole reason why you have a vision in the first place.
The power of your marriage success is determined by the level of confidence you have in your own ability to complete the mission, and the amount of faith you have in God’s ability to enable your strengths, cover your weaknesses, and fix your failures
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3. Strategic Purpose
Purpose is the whole reason why your marriage exists – right? So establish a purpose for your marriage. This is the caboose in your train – daily driving you forward towards your destiny in God for your marriage.
Remember, your marriage is not only for you to enjoy, but for others to learn from, model after, and enjoy your example.
I am in the process of putting together a premarital course that will focus on this area of marriage. In addition, my free course, 4 simple Ways to Lead your Family with Vision, I teach, not only building a vision for your family but also structuring the purpose for your marriage.
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4. Strategic Plan
Success is a team sport; no one ever succeeds alone, therefore the impact of your leadership ability in your marriage is measured by the caliber of your vision, mission, purpose and strategic planning.
In other words, to the degree that you plan for your marital success is to the degree that your daily peace, joy, and marital example will be. This one of the reasons my wife and I take time most mornings to drink coffee together. It helps us work the plan for our marriage in a casual environment.
The definition of your success is in your faithfulness to your divine call as a couple, not in the outcome of your mission. Remember that!
In other words, faithfulness is success because the Lord ultimately determines outcomes.
Truth is that when you fail to plan, you plan to fail. So when you plan to succeed, with the right tools for your marriage you will see a big difference.
With prayer, and everything that marriage requires, especially these 4 key elements, the Lord will lead you into a thriving marriage that will even supersede your expectations and even your strategic methods.
Becoming the right person in your marriages is not a quick process, but it's possible and easy one to develop.