The way to have a contagious marriage
Married couples struggle - in some way, shape or form. Are you experiencing a successful marriage that is long-term? How have you learned to thrive in your marriage?
I love observing people - especially couples. I consistently strive to be a better husband and father and the best way I know to improve is to watch and learn from other successful couples.
Over the years I have learned two things from watching couples, leaders and others. I’ve learned how to be a better husband and how NOT to be a mediocre one.
Though by far being a perfect husband, yet I continue to learn from others to enhance my marriage and husband skills.
In my observations, there are some common traits among the most long-term successful marriages. It can be easy to be married for a season - even for a decade or more.
But, marriages that last and are successful for many years are rare in this day and age. And, they share some interesting characteristics.
I call these vital traits of a long-term successful marriage.
A pillar speaks of vital support for a great structure. It’s actually an integral part for sustaining or partly sustaining a superstructure.
In my opinion, I believe you’ll find these pillars among all successful marriages.
Here are 6 Vital Characteristics Of A long-term, successful marriages I’ve witnessed:
Successful marriages believe in something bigger than what they see today. They are going somewhere in life. And they’re taking their marriage and their family far.
That’s part of their vision. They are ready to work hard at their marriage. They understand that to inspire to have a successful marriage without a vision is simply a dream without a mission.
This is why I have put together this great course, 4 Simple Steps To Lead Your Family With Vision. Go a ahead and enjoy it. It’s totally free with no strings attached. You actually get a pdf printout to follow along and use for your vision crafting.
A vision for your marriage is essential. It helps you build your marriage within the freedom of your vision craft allowing you and your spouse to go to higher height and deeper depths in your marriage.
Long-term successful marriages are rare and they don’t just evolve – they work on their marriage craft.
Another trait I’ve observed in long-term successful marriages is a serious commitment. They remain rock-solid in their dedication to their marriage and their family.
They stick to what they feel in their heart God has called them to be and to do. They are unwavered by others or the “mood of the day”. They aren’t only present in the good seasons, but weather the storms of life together.
Their faith keeps them grounded.
Their hope keeps them going.
Their commitment keeps them steady on course.
"Successful marriages believe in something bigger than what they see today. They are going somewhere in life." Alex Colon
Long-term successful marriages make difficult decisions together. So much so, that I’ve noticed other people (including singles) are willing to follow them, because they know they allow life to pass them by.
They are decisive in their marriage craft.
They have a vision and they know the way.
They won’t compromise their values and their principles either. They are firm in their convictions and willing to stand for them when others won’t. They are decisive with conviction.
Long-term, successful marriages don’t jump ship when times get difficult. These couples confront reality head-on; moving forward without hesitation. They don’t cower to pressure to conform or fail to say what needs saying.
They have the courage to be and to do when others around them don’t. They are bold in being transparent and passionate about their marriage and it’s clear they’re confident about their decision.
Regardless of whether life is going smooth or hard, their courage to stay the course of their marriage is solid. They don’t fall into the trap of needing to be made happy in order to stay married. They work at making their spouse happy.
They are confident that their investment in their marriage is valuable and long-lasting despite of the current inconsistent trends.
It’s what gets couples up in the morning ready to face another day. They believe in their call to their commitment. They are zealous to see it grow and perhaps revealed when they are intentional about influencing others.
They have a contagious enthusiasm about marriage. They are positive-minded and believe and hope in the days ahead.
Long-lasting successful married couples are strong in what matters most – their character. Oh, they sure understand that the foundation and the icing on the cake are both found and sustained in their character.
They have integrity, high morals, and qualities others can and want to follow. And, they are consistent over time in protecting their character to be above reproach.
Obviously, in my specific role as a pastor, these are characteristics worthy of my quest to become even a better husband – a solid and influencing husband - a contagious husband.
Question: What other trait have you learned to implement in your marriage to make it a successful one?
Don’t be shy and share your comments below. Help the rest of us learn from your observation or your practice.