Plus 2 important things to understand regarding the spiritual condition of your marriage.
Do you ever feel tired and weary – yet not necessarily from working hard – but from stress, distress or just for no reason at all? – Just worn out!
Do you struggle to get through each day – physically, emotionally and even spiritually?
Many times you feel limited or unproductive in your prayer, in your praise, and in your walk with Christ.
It may not be a coincidence. It could be a sure sign that you’re under spiritual attack.
Spiritual attacks often manifest in the natural.
Let me make something clear, though. Not every weariness, or stress or struggle is a spiritual attack – though most of it is due to the sinful nature of mankind.
How about this? Do you ever feel like your spouse is acting upset with you no reason at all? How about those cranky and grouchy times?
Have you ever gotten up in the morning “on the wrong side of the bed?”
Again, I’m not saying everything negative we experience is the result of a spiritual attack. By the same token, though, we’re always in a spiritual battle.
The difference is that some people try to fight their battles with alcohol, drugs, pornography, shopping, etc., while some of us Believers, are able to fight our battles on our knees – and win.
The enemy – Satan and his cronies strategize seasons and reasons to attack your life by finding the right connections, and information found in our spiritual “record” to bring those accusations and deploy the right attacks at the right time. (Well, there’s never a “right time” for a spiritual attack, but for the kingdom of darkness – there is).
The enemy wants you to ignore him and pretend he doesn’t exist. He wants you to believe that he’s just in hell doing nothing in the earth.
Let me level with you here – the enemy of your soul, your marriage and your family are very real and so are the battles you fight.
You need to understand two things:
A. Your marriage is under constant attack.
B. You must learn how to fight for your marriage and win.
Over 51% of married couples end up in a divorce or separated, most of the time, due to a spiritual attack.
Let me see if you recognize some these 7 symptoms of spiritual attack:
1. Are most of the arguments you and your spouse have normally for stupid reasons? Are they really that serious?
2. Is the reason for your arguments the real reason why you argue? (More often than not the answer is NO).
3. Are you or your spouse afraid of losing control, financial security, friends, status, job, etc.?
4. Do you ever feel like you’re not feeling quite right - weird, strange, unsure, but you can’t put your finger on it? If that wasn’t enough, do you start wondering if the problem and weirdness comes from your spouse?
5. Do you blame your spouse often for things you didn’t like or for selfish reasons?
6. Do one of you often have to feel like you have to be right 100% of the time?
7. Do either one of you ever wonder if God answers your prayers? – or even hears them?
If these and many other symptoms are part of your life, rest assured – you’re under spiritual attack.
Don’t fall for the psychological diagnosis that always tell you that these are often due to personal differences, hormonal imbalances, or just normal human temperaments.
Sure, temper, attitudes, personal differences are all real. But it is these realities that Satan often uses to destroy a marriage. You couple these differences with a spiritual attack and you will end up with a selfish difference resulting in destructive homes.
So what should you do?
First, let me ask you a question: How does the following verse change your perspective?
Ephesians 6:12 NIV “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”
If you're trying to advance the kingdom of God in any capacity, working at developing a godly marriage and a Christian home, you can bet you will bump into planned spiritual attacks and will be spiritually bullied.
One of the primary tricks of the enemy is to get a person deceived and not realizing the depth of what is taking place in their lives.
Oftentimes people assume that the struggle they are facing is just a natural battle yet just beneath the surface there is something far more complex taking place.
They are under a spiritual attack!
What Is A Spiritual Attack? Let’s define that so we’re on the same page. A spiritual attack is a series of events coordinated by the demonic realm in order to abort promises, shipwreck faith, oppress a believer and stall out destiny.
Notice, your fight is not with your spouse, but with demonic forces – regardless of the indifferences, bullheadedness, stubbornness, etc.
The enemy is using condition of and circumstances of your marriage to abort promises, shipwreck faith, oppress you and stall out your destiny.
Next week I will tell you how to defeat these attacks and have a triumphant, joyous and happy marriage – the way it’s supposed to be.
Meanwhile, tell me what areas you struggle with in your marriage to help you recognize if you’re having a spiritual attack or if your spouse just needs a little extra loving. You can write your comments below or you can email them to me at: firstname.lastname@example.org