3 ways to turn the junk in your marriage into one Strong Masterpiece
Have you ever felt or realized that your marriage is somewhat of a mess?
I mean, when you look deep into your marriage – does it look intact and everything arranged in place or is it more like, well, a junkyard?
A junkyard? Where’d that come from?
Ok, so here’s something you’ve probably never heard before. Last night I spoke with a great friend who actually surprised me by his comment. (More on that in a minute).
My buddy makes amazing metal/steal crafts. A few months ago he made my wife a huge butterfly out of old shovels he found, for her birthday.
This butterfly was designed for the flower garden. It’s the neatest thing we’ve ever had in our flower garden. My wife’s crazy about it.
I’ve seen his work. You can see some of it here on his Facebook page. Several things he’s made out of metal are pigs, cats, turtles, bikes, flowers, roses and much more.
He’s amazing. He finds old steal junk like at junkyards and creates different things.
Well, in our conversation last night he said this: “I go to the junkyard to get inspiration.” Ha! Is that weird or what?
Now get this; my good friend goes to the junkyard to get inspired to make various creations. Is that crazy, or what? To me it is. It’s funny to me.
But get this.
Everyone I know wants him to make them something. I saw a beautiful flower he made out of a car fan, with a stem out of a steal rod, and leaves out of spatulas or cement trowels.
Amazing how he can take a mess, a piece of what others consider “junk,” and turns it into a beautiful masterpiece.
His comment got us laughing so hard due to its, well, weirdness. You get what I mean?
I mean, do you ever go to the junk yard to get some type of inspiration? Do you get excited around metal junk?
Sure some people buy parts at a junk yard for their older cars, but usually not to buy somebody a birthday gift.
Imagine this: So your wife tells you: “honey, it’s so and so’s birthday tomorrow” Then you say something like this: “ok, I gotta make him/her something then.”
Mind you, you highly respect this person, so you want to get them something nice.
So off to the “shop” you go and start pulling old car parts, and different pieces of metal and steal to come up with something.
Three hours later, you’ve welded an incredibly cool craft and the birthday friend is ecstatic. I’ve seen this numerous times. My friend’s talent is just mind-blowing.
As I went home that night after he made that funny comment, I got to thinking, man, that’s just the way God works with us. God takes the junk in our lives and through his process of forgiveness, restoration and love he is able to craft a masterpiece out of our own lives – including our marriages.
I don’t know about you, but though my wife and I both came from decent homes, yet we both got married with a ton of junk in our lives.
Hurts from the past – relationships, broken dreams, bad habits, bad attitudes, fears, preconceived ideas, etc., We both had some unpleasant junk to deal with.
Amazingly enough God in his mercy and love, took our junk, brought it together and created a masterpiece of a marriage.
Man, I tell ya, our marriage is serious.
I am very happy with our marriage that I can’t imagine it being any better. I’m not joking. I’m dead serious.
How did we do it? You, mean, how do we keep doing it?
I’m so glad you asked.
Here are 3 ways to turn the junk in your marriage into one masterpiece that my wife and I have learned:
Repent, Remove and replace. That's it!
In other words, the process God used to take the junk out of our lives and turn it into a masterpiece of a relationship was by following these same steps and put living by them day by day.
We’d repent of such junk and God removed it with his forgiveness.
Here’s how this worked for us:
1. We repented and God forgave us and removed the stench of the junk in our lives.
This didn't take long - just moments. But not everything was dealt with at once.
There were things that we weren't even aware of. Over time more junk kept coming up and the craft was becoming more the way it was supposed to look. Get my drift?
2. He removed not only the sin but the ugliness of sin or the junk in our lives.
Repenting is one thing - Removing it was another. The repentance was our part - the removing was God's part.
Once we repented, he forgave us and removed the legal judgment from our lives. Ain't that awesome?!
3. He replaced it with his love, forgiveness, and grace.
What looked like junk once now looks like something others want to model after. Only God can do that.
He then takes his hand and begins to form the broken pieces, broken dreams, and hopelessness into a masterpiece that we ourselves could not create.
In fact, I don’t want to belittle the human race, but there’s so much junk in all of our lives, from broken homes, to broken dreams to broken promises – just shier brokenness.
In other words, due to sin, the perfect world God created eventually became much like a junkyard.
Ok, don’t delete this page. Hear me out.
Have you ever been to a junkyard? I have – a few times. I’ve gone to buy different parts for different vehicles.
One thing about junkyards – they are always a mess – to most people. To the owner and worker it’s usually in order, but to the regular consumer – it’s just a big pile of mess.
Parts everywhere. Grease and dirty stuff everywhere. It’s craziness.
But to the right person, like my friend, it’s like a toy store.
Our lives are still very meaningful to God and to others – yes. But in comparison, when man was first created he was perfect – without sin – much like a brand new car. (Bad comparison but just to stay in sync with the nature of this article – so bear with me)
Man was not self-destructive, deceitful or evil.
Man was perfect. (Genesis 1:26-31)
In the process, he fell into sin by way of disobedience to God and sin entered the world. The curse of death entered earth. In fact, what God designed to last a lifetime, now lasts merely 80 years or so.
But with the finished work of Christ, man is able to find his way back to a perfect relationship with God.
He begins the process of reconciliation and restoration with man. He begins to take the broken pieces of the human soul and turns them into something beautiful only God can foresee and create.
He then takes two broken lives, imperfect lives and turns them into a spectacular masterpiece for the world to see.
In the process, he displays his own beauty woven into the fiber of our beings creating one couple from two distinct broken lives, into an example of love, joy and success.
It’s in the junkyards of life where God finds inspiration to create a beautiful masterpiece in our lives through his Son.
By the way, back to my friend. He had a very hard background. He had all sorts of broken dreams and hopes.
He didn’t think he could ever establish a home life. But God had a different plan.
Today, after just two years of turning his life to Jesus Christ, his life is becoming an awesome craft created in the very hand of God.
His life, his family and future have improved so much that others are taking notice, enjoying the craft.
It’s neat to see how God took two broken lives filled with junk and crafted a masterpiece for others to enjoy.
We all have areas in our lives that don’t seem to be up to code in the scheme of things, but God sees otherwise.
From a junkyard to a flowerbed. Only God can craft an awesome piece out of the junk found in our lives.
Don't be so hard on yourself, remember, what was once a rusted piece of junk, can become a beautiful craft in somebody's flowerbed.
If your marriage is kind of messy, remember to keep these steps in order: Repent, Remove and Replace to get your marriage from the junkyard to the flowerbed.