3 Simple Things To Implement In Your Marriage The RNC 2016 Showed You [Plus A Bonus]
What are you purposely doing as a married couple right now to make your marriage better?
Are you maximizing your marriage purpose?
Are you tapping into your marriage potential?
Many couples somehow think that married life is going to “evolve” all on its own as “we work together.”
Working together is good, but often times that means: “you do your thing, I do my thing.” That attitude breaks marriages, not build them.
On the other hand, others have all the good intentions but still, the troubles of life overcome the joy of marriage.
Truth is, if you’re not actively learning and implementing the wisdom you grow into, your marriage is bound to mediocrity to say the least.
Among the many things said and done, The Republic National Convention 2016 showed you 3 simple things to implement in your marriage. These three practices are crucial to any marriage for optimum success.
Not only are these practices important but the added bonus’ are also what most marriages strive after.
Here are 3 Simple Things to Implement in Your Marriage the RNC 2016 Showed You
1. What others say about you as a person along with your accomplishments will help grow your marriage.
Notice how Donald Trump started the convention. He had people coming before him saying all sorts of positive things about him as a person as well as positive things he had accomplished in the past.
From national accomplishments to individual lives he didn’t know personally – he somehow made a difference, and he had those people come to share their experience.
I’m not saying that everything that was said during the Convention was 100% accurate. That’s for you to decide.
Furthermore, I’m not advocating Trump’s ability to be the next POTUS. I’m simply referring as to how he opened up the convention.
He let others establish his reputation, built the American people’s confidence in his ability to lead our nation, and reveal to others what he could not do himself.
In other words, Trump has been one of the most arrogant presidential candidates to run in my lifetime. He is definitely a strong leader in his own right, and the arrogance behind his strength came out loud and clear during his campaign.
On the opening night of the convention, people talked about his tender, caring and loving heart for his family, as well as the nation.
He is taking this time to let others reveal another side of him (whether 100% true of not – that’s for you to decide) that he could not do himself.
What’s so important about this approach, you might ask?
When others establish your character for you, it speaks volumes.
Sure Trump has done this all throughout his campaign, but during the RNC you want others to do that for you.
The last thing you want to do is brag about yourself and your accomplishments.Let your friends and your spouse do it for you.
So what’s the point?
In your marriage, brag about your wife, and wives, brag about your husband.Leave your personal bragging behind you. You’re now one flesh, so brag on your spouse.
I do it every time and my wife is Wonder Woman and I’m Superman to others as a result of her bragging on me.
We don’t do this intentional to get others to like us, we just do it because we love each other and like to brag on each other. I’m proud to be married to the best woman in the world. And I think she got lucky herself – or better yet, blessed – well… that’s what she’s said
2. Put your wife first.
Bragging about your wife is one thing – but having her be first is yet another.
Did you notice how Trump made a spectacular entrance (or weird entrance, depending on your taste), but everyone thought he was going to speak.
His entrance, however, was to become the hosts for his wife. So he ends up introducing his wife to speak first. In fact, he wasn’t on the schedule to speak until the next day.
You might think that this was all part of a planned structure and these conventions run similarly across the board. Fine. I won’t disagree. I’m just making a point.
Regardless of the party – that’s irrelevant – it’s the point I’m making that I’m trying to establish here that will improve your marriage.
Husbands, put your wives first!
After 28 years of marriage, I still open the door for my wife, sometimes I pull the chair for her at a restaurant (usually not at home – and maybe I still should).
At church, at any job I’ve ever done, and the construction business I ran for years, everyone always learned that my wife came first before anyone else did. Did you get that?
Yet, before all that is implemented, every time I see somebody I know, the first thing I do is introduce my wife. I want them to know that my wife is just as important as I am and she comes before anything else.
So introduce your wife! Don’t leave her hanging.
Listen, my wife comes first even before my kids do. They know that my goal is to please mom first, then the kids. In turn, they receive a tremendous amount of confidence in the love we have for each other and for them and the fact that I will not allow anything to compromise our marriage relationship.
Before kids, before work, before church, before ministry, before anything or anyone (just not before God) your wife ought to come first.
Wife – your hubby ought to come first too.
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3. Finger pointing is a childish approach – don’t do it.
Let’s be fair. As much as I’m pointing out the good from the Republican National Convention, I will also point out the bad.
Listen, I know that conventions and candidates for different parties always bring out their opponents dirty laundry.
Part of the reason for this is because most Americans are not aware of some of the things they’ve done in the past. So they try to balance or offset the record on each other.
However, here’s another point. I’m a Senior Pastor and if I’m looking for an Associate or Assistant pastor to work alongside of me I have to interview this man or woman.
If in the interviewing process I hear any bad or nasty talk about the previous boss, I will not even consider this person to work for me.
In fact, they even teach you this principle when interviewing for a secular job, don’t they? If you speak ill of your current of previous employer you will definitely speak ill of your future employer as well.
If that was the only problem then it’d be OK. But speaking evil and being critical of somebody else in order for you to get what you want, it’s childish and immature.
So please, whenever you’re with your friends, husbands or wives, please NEVER be critical of your spouse.
My wife and I have heard countless men criticize their wives for various reasons. By the same token, we’ve seen and heard wives be critical of their husbands. Even over the littlest things.
The finger pointing against your spouse will create defeat in your relationship, both from an emotional standpoint and a spiritual one.
I wish I could develop this, but this topic will have to be in a book form or in a course form. There is too much to talk about here.
Suffice it to say, finger pointing or criticizing your spouse will devastate your marriage relationship. So don’t do it.
Bonus: Your children are the beneficiaries. Much like the positive results any president has done for our country (or any country for that matter) the people are the long-term beneficiaries of the President’s decisions.
Putting into practice the 3 points, mentioned above, not only will they bless your marriage, but it will also benefit your children and even those around you.
You want to be a live example of a unified, strong marriage to your kids, your friends, and others around you?
Then start with these three practices. Make it a point to make them part of your lifestyle.
Together, you will rebrand your marriage and your lives while help others around you, especially your kids’ future, to be branded according to their design.
Question: What else did you learn from the RNC 2016 that can help a marriage be strong?