Fear is gripping the hearts of many. The Supreme Court's ruling on same sex marriage has created a great deal of concern for the church and other religious positions in America. The concern is so great that it is beginning to generate fear in the hearts of many.
I wonder, should many be afraid of this decision? Should they be afraid of the potential outcome? Or - should they be confident in what we believe? This is up to you to answer.
Meanwhile, I want to entertain a question that hits closer to home - to all of our homes: How often do you experience fear? Do you think of it as a silly feeling or a real problem? One of the first things you will experience in your pursuit of change, loss of control, growth, entrepreneurship, choosing your spouse, parenting or anything in life is FEAR.
There has been an acronym for FEAR which is False Evidence Appearing Real. However, in its reality is not quite the way it sounds. Fear is still a reality. It is true that often times fear is not based on something that has actually happened. Fear is usually based on the potential of what could occur.
Reality or unreality
However, your brain and your emotions do not know the “reality” or “unreality” of the nature of your fear. Your brain is not able to naturally determine whether the reason for your fear is real or fake. Your brain acts as if you are going through a legitimate problem and it responds accordingly.
Neuroscientist, Dr. Caroline Leaf stated that “75% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about affects us physically and emotionally.”
Now, think of this - the average person has well over 30,000 thoughts every single day. The thing about it is, most of those thoughts are negative. “Research shows that fear, all on its own, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones.” It is no wonder that most illnesses today are the psychosomatic – the result of our negative and fearful thinking.
“Research shows that fear, all on its own, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones.”
Fear has a deeper reality than the aforementioned description. Fear is actually faith in reverse. In other words, fear is faith in that which is negative, scary, forbidding, intimidating, horrific, etc. In fact, fear is mere focus on the devil. He is the only one that has fear to give. God cannot give you fear because he does not have it. But satan does have fear – and plenty to give.
Faith believes that God is willing and capable of protecting you, guiding you, supplying for you and being present with you. God is always there, but fear will say that he is not. Fear will say that God is not, will not, therefore, he cannot. Deception at its best.
Fear also assist us in determining that we can’t do what we are most capable of doing, or most desiring to do. The heart often becomes confused and paralyzed. Fear is a rooted emotion/reality that is attached or connected to many things we deal with when it comes to making decisions in life. So when making a decision here is a guideline I follow in order to be properly positioned to do what I know I must do. Part of what I use is what I call:
5 Ways To Deal with Fear of the Future
1. Be convinced. I must be convinced of who I am (in Christ) and what I am supposed to be doing. This removes additional insecurities and fears that could paralyze me from moving forward.
2. Pray. Prayer is the highway of communication between God and man whereby all distractions are removed and God’s voice, guidance, leading and will become clear.
3. Read. I am pretty consistent in my Bible reading and study. So I try to find scriptures that will bring clarification about what I’m dealing with or decisions I need to make. If it’s in the Word then it is God’s will. God’s Word is God’s Will – every time. I’m convinced of that.
4. Talk. Talk about the decision you are about to make. I often talk to my wife and sometimes with a friend about a decision I am contemplating. They may be able to not only give me good and sound advice (at least their opinion) but they will also pray for me during the process. There may be a time when coaching might be necessary so I will call a friend who is also a Life Coach.
5. Feel. Lastly, I wait for peace. Peace is not a definite deciding factor but it is a good measure because it indicates that I may be going the right direction.
Emotions are unreliable, but often times when you’re not doing what you’re supposed to do, you will know it – you will definitely feel it. However, if it is something we want to do real badly, then we manage our feelings to feel right. Did you get that?
So I funnel my decisions through more important “filters” before I listen to my feelings. I want to make a concrete and God willing decision. I talk more explicitly about this in my book, which has helped many discover their life’s purpose.
This is definitely not necessarily a scientific or theological method of dealing with fearful thoughts and feelings during your decision making, but it is scientific and theologically based. This method works for me and tons of other people.
I am curious as to what methods work for you when dealing with fear of the future. Share your methods in the comments below and let’s grow together.
About the Author
Alex Colón, Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, Teacher, Pastor, Blogger and best of all, Husband and Father of 4. Living the re-Branded life