Every parent and every child struggles with it – the idea that at some point during their teens and young adult years, a child is “too smart” or “too cool” to learn from mom and dad. Ironically, real leadership start at home.
Nobody wants to live with regrets. Early in life everyone aspire to become something great, regardless of their present circumstances. But most people never even tap their potential of becoming all they were designed to be.
Truth is, if they’d just listen when they thought they were smart enough or cool enough they would’ve not had any regrets in their older years. The late Myles Monroe once said: “Cemeteries are full of untapped potential.” Graves are filled with branded potential that never arose to their maximum capabilities.
The time comes when kids think they’re too smart or too cool to learn or even listen to their parents. The funny thing is, by the time they reach middle age, many wish they could be reBranded wishing they’d still had mom and dad to listen to and learn from.
I have learned a thing or two with all four of our kids. They’re all different and each one needs their own special attention, affirmation and lessons for life. Their ages range from 13-23 – the “too smart; too cool” prime years. The good news is – we connect with them and believe it or not, most of the time they listen. Whew!
So before my kids become way to cool to listen, I want to share some of these “life hacks” with them. I say "some" because I have already shared some of these with them already.
“Cemeteries are full of untapped potential.” ... Dr. Myles Monroe
Here are 7 Life Hacks I Will Tell My Kids Before They Think They’re “Too Smart” to Learn
1. The more you know, the more you realize how much you still don’t know.
In almost every situation, the willingness to grow and change something you do not know could change everything. Instead of keeping an open mind – keeping a narrow mindset is most important. Why? Because the open mindset will take you every which way – both good and bad, floundering through life never discovering your true purpose. The narrow mindset will take you specifically in the direction you want to go focusing your vision pursuit.
2. Don’t depend others to value your worth – follow God – your worth comes from him.
Let others impart unto you but don’t let them limit you to their standards. God’s love sets us free from the need to seek the approval of others. So allow yourself to be loved by God and to be all that God wants you to be. Life is freer, more fun and rewarding that way.
3. You can always take small steps towards your vision.
There is absolutely nothing about your present situation that prevents you from following your dreams, or your God-given vision. Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before. Let God lead you.
4. Don’t be a negative person.
The world is full of negative people - don't be like everyone else. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Remember, failure is an event, not a person. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle and training to win in life. Remember that what you speak materializes. Words are powerful, so don’t waste them with negativism.
5. Don’t compare yourself with others.
Comparing yourself with others will rob you of your happiness and your true fulfillment in life. You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, or think about you but it wouldn’t get you anything or anywhere. So be you – the person God has made you to be!
6. Attitude is everything – everything is attitude.
Don’t base your attitude on how things are. Choose your attitude wisely. Realize that there are times when there’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t fix everything. You can’t control anything! The only thing you can control is your attitude, which will ultimately reveal your true character.
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7. Let me help you.
You will want to proof yourself and show what you can do alone- and that’s admirable. Stretch your wings, but don’t ever think I’m too old or too ignorant to help you with your situation.
Remember, I’ve been where you are. You’re never too cool or too smart to learn or allow your parents help you with a word or a prayer. We’d love to be part of your life – in some small way. We will always be here for you.
I know that there are other Life Hacks that I could share, and in the future I will post more, because there is more to share with our kids and even grandkids. Life is too short, and filled with a lack of moral values destroying too many. I refuse to let my kids become self-destructive if I can help it, even with a few words of wisdom.
By providing wisdom and helping them shape their character, our kids will become strong leaders in their respective callings.
What would you add to the list?
Question: What do you want to tell your kids before think they’re “too smart” to learn? Share your answers below.
About the Author
Alex Colón, Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, Teacher, Pastor, Blogger and best of all, Husband and Father of 4. Living the re-Branded life