4 Ways to bring your marriage back to a “naked” paradise.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Gen. 2:25
When God created Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, He created them naked and without any shame related to it.
The Word, “naked” in Genesis 2:25 means “bare, to be exposed.” While the word “shame”
means “ashamed, disappointed.”
In other words, God created marriage to be a place where you could totally expose yourselves to each other – mentally, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, and physically – without shame or disappointed about the other.
This is what makes intimacy on every level possible in marriage.
Unfortunately, due to the fall of man, real intimacy, not only physically or sexually, but also mentally, emotionally, and materially, has been a challenge in nearly every marriage in the world.
This is why is very important that when a couple is considering marriage, they talk about everything. They first need to develop a pure relationship of true and real friendship in order to establish a common ground of honesty and purity.
Then, they should talk about their strengths and weaknesses so they are ready to expose themselves when married.
When you are truly “naked” without shame or disappointment in marriage, you can share your lives with each other.
You have unhindered access to each other.
You can talk about anything without fear.
You can express your sexuality without inhibition.
You can share your darkest feelings and brightest dreams with each other without a thought of future reproach.
This type of intimacy and love is true under one condition – that the relationship remains pure. You see, when Adam and Eve were created, they were naked without shame until sin entered their lives - their relationship – their unity.
As Jimmy Evans said: “Once they sinned, they could no longer trust each other. “
Their marriage Paradise was lost as they both hid themselves behind fig leaves and shivered in fear, looked over their shoulder disappointed, separated from intimacy with God and each other.
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The good news is – couples can find their way back to their marriage paradise.
This return to marriage paradise, can be obtained, experienced and enjoyed. It begins as you take responsibility for your actions as you move forward with the following steps.
Here are 4 ways to bring your marriage back to paradise.
The first step is to surrender your life to Christ and then to your spouse. Be humbled enough to admit your sins faults and flaws to God. And invite Jesus into your life and into your marriage relationship. In addition to a newfound life in Christ, your marriage will experience a major transformation - as with most couples.
2. Be Honest.
Be honest with each other and share areas where you struggle with shame and disappointments within the marriage unit. When you take this initiative, be sure to be open minded, receptive and very forgiving. This time is a very vulnerable time, so be gentile, and honest with your spouse.
3. Be Loving.
By being loving simply means, don’t point fingers and don’t blame your spouse for their own faults. Take responsibility and love them enough to help them overcome their issues together. After all, you’re one flesh and you’re responsible for each other.
4. Pray Together.
Together, bring your shame and disappointments before God. It’s amazing what happens when we pray together with our spouses. Breakthroughs do happen.
As you both do this, you will create an atmosphere of purity and unity in your relationship.
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Going forward keep these things in mind and in practice:
1. To keep the purity in your relationship.
2. Be careful in how you treat each other.
3. You also must monitor your words, attitudes and actions to make sure you don’t become sloppy and take each other for granted.
4. When you make a mistake, apologize quickly.
This is the only way I know to create and develop a “naked” marriage the way God intended. It's worked for me and countless others.