How to fight for your marriage
In my previous post, I gave you the 7 ways to recognize when your marriage is under spiritual attack.
In today’s post I want to give you 6 keys to break free from spiritual attack against your marriage.
If there’s one truth about your marriage is that it’s under spiritual attack. There are times when our marriages are under sever attack while at other times things are smooth and quiet. However, our marriage is always in a battlefield.
Let me give you this truth:
Witches and Satanists are constantly praying and fasting for the destruction of the Christian home around the world. Media, Politics, new Laws, and Socioeconomic challenges, different movements and programs are designed to destroy our marriages. I don’t have enough space on a blog post to proof all of this for you. But trust me, there is even more.
In fact, every marriage is always under attack at some level. The difference is that a Christian marriage has the way out – the way to win the battles they encounter, besides the basic components to a successful marriage. We have the power and authority to come against the operating demonic forces driving our opposition.
So, as Joel 3:9-10 (MSG) says: "Prepare for battle! Soldiers at attention! Present arms! Advance! Turn your shovels into swords; turn your hoes into spears. Let the weak one throw out his chest and say, 'I'm tough, I'm a fighter.'"
The call to arms has never changed since the prophet Joel wrote these words. Today, with all the turmoil in the world affecting our lives, families and marriages, we must fight the good fight of faith.
Let me be clear here, I’m not advocating to physically battle our opponents. That would be absurd.
Though there are times when contracts ought to be drawn for protection and establishments of rights, etc. But this call to arms is to fight a spiritual battle – not a natural one. The good fight of faith is the one fight that always wins.
Let me remind you that the only way to overcome the enemy of your soul is through the finished work of Christ. You could never win the battle with your adversary apart from Jesus – never!
So, Here are 6 keys to break free from spiritual attack against your marriage:
1. Break it with faith
You've got to believe inside you that you can be free from that attack. Matt. 9:29 Jesus said: “According to your faith be it done to you.”
Hebrews 11:33-35 talks about how "… who through faith conquered kingdoms, enforced justice, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, quenched the power of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, were made strong out of weakness, became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight. Women received back their dead by resurrection. Some were tortured, refusing to accept release, so that they might rise again to a better life.”
Your faith God will honor. So break the spiritual attacks by faith.
You must believe that God is for you and for your marriage.
You must also know your position to fight from. You fight from being hidden in Christ and fight in faith, not in luck or by chance - and definitely, not on your own.
Faith moves mountains, it moves the hand of God and accomplishes the impossible.
2. Break it with prayer
Device a prayer scheme. Get a prayer partner. Get prayer at church. Pray everywhere - every time.
Prayer is not easy…it’s hard work. Yes, for some it seems to come easy, but when you are under spiritual attack, that’s the last thing you feel like doing. We only make progress in our spiritual life when we are moving forward on our knees – in prayer.
Matt. 21:22 Jesus said: “And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive if you have faith.”
So pray, and pray, and then pray some more. Pray like you’ve never prayed before. God hears your prayers.
This is another good reason you need to put your faith in action – because the prayer of faith accomplishes much.
3. Draw a line in the sand
Do you believe that your Savior King is for you or against you? Do you believe he is working for your good or for your demise?
When we take a stand, the “confuser” often cannot.
Let me give you an example of this. My wife and I determined, long ago, that the only presence we were going to allow in our home and in our marriage was God’s presence. No other.
So with that, we make sure that our line is drawn in the sand. In other words, we don’t allow things to come into our home or between our marriage that will hinder our spiritual walk or our strong relationship.
When you draw a line, you must stay on your side of the line. Drawing a line is much like signing a contract. Just set up the terms, draw the contract and sign it.
Once that contract is signed, don’t break it, don’t violate it and stick with the term.
In other words, don’t give the enemy a chance or reason to step over your line. It’s your duty, and your authority in Christ that he will submit to.
4. Break it with resistance
Submitting yourself to God and keeping that "weak spot" in perspective is the best way to resist it. Whatever your weakness is, keep it in check, stay accountable to someone you trust, and keep the devil at bay.
Weakness like, anger, lying, emotional instability, the need to be recognized or noticed in order to feel special or wanted, criticism, old bad habits, negative attitudes, etc. Keep them in perspective, in check, and under control by submitting them to God.
James 4:7 says: Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Submit to God first, then you can resist the devil as you pray in faith that God will grant you what you asked for because He promised and because you have a covenant with God.
So how do you resist the devil over your marriage? So glad you asked:
a. Exercise the authority given you to by Father God, from your place of authority as you’re seated in heavenly places in Christ Jesus and break the attack today!
b. Speak the Word of God over your situation instead of a words of criticism.
The devil rides on the waves of your words – so watch how you speak to and over your marriage.
c. The word “resist” is a legal term that deals with standing in opposition based on your contract.
It’s almost like a lineman resisting his opposing team in order to protect his quarterback – except not with strength but with authority.
So be sure to submit yourself to God, discover and do his will for your marriage; resist the enemy that’s attacking your marriage, repent for anything you might have done to allow the accuser to bring an accusation against you and your marriage, speak the right words of blessings over your marriage, and the attacks will be removed.
5. Use your Sword.
When you sword up with the power of the Spirit, you have the ability to slay approaching evil at its onslaught.
God's Word cuts lies faster than a surgeon can cut malignant cancer.
For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. (Heb. 4:12)
Along with words of blessings over your marriage, use the sword of the Spirit – the Word of God.
6. Don’t forsake the power of partnership when you’re under attack.
That means you MUST lean on other Christians. No country will ever send One man to the battlefield.In fact, they don’t even send one military branch to fight.They often send more than two and often all four branches.
Likewise, you must learn to rely on other believers of like-faith to help you pray for your marriage.
You may need some extra support in prayer, counseling, good books on marriage, and blogs such as this one – to help you enhance the quality of your marriage and teach you how to fight for it.Don’t fight alone – you belong to a family – the family of God, so let’s work together on this.
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When you or your marriage is under spiritual attack, remember you’ve been made to outlast the storm. As a Christian, your foundation is built on the rock, Jesus Christ—Matthew 7:24-27
See, every Believer is equipped with an arsenal of incredible life-altering and world-changing power.
For those who rightly esteem the privilege of accessing God's armory of possibilities, each word spoken through or by that person holds enormous, innovative potential and creative power.
The Father has entreated each one of us to be involved in a dialogue that marshals angels and sets forth the weaponry of war—weaponry that impacts the spiritual realm and affects how events unfold in the natural world.